less mechanics, more adoration.

(Brought on by one of my favorite politicians of all time)

Comfortability is such a supreme thought, when it comes to marriage and don't get me wrong. I believe that being comfortable and warm, in regards to your love relationship is very important.  But may comfortability never replace the mutual adoration and respect that you once felt.

Meeting Sean at fourteen years of age came with several drawbacks but perhaps one of it's greatest strengths is that there is a portion of my feelings for him, that are frozen in time and they shall always be.
Sweet, pure, romantic and buoyed by the offer of unfettered love.

A marriage that is all about schedules, mechanics and roles can become tiresome, dull and rather sad.

Let's remember what brought us together in the first place.  Or perhaps remember what has been keeping us together and allow that to be our compass.

A pair of sweatpants is comfortable....
A marriage should be extraordinary.

 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church — for we are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
 Ephesians 5:22-23


  1. Wellll..... OK then.... I guess I'll get out of my pj's and take a shower today. Maybe even put on some makeup.... Ha! Just kidding. ;)

    Great post! While I agree that being comfortable with my hubby is one of the best things about marriage, it doesn't mean that I should be lazy about expressing love or wanting to connect with him intellectually. It's like maintaining any relationship - you have to prioritize it in order for it to last.

    Thank you for sharing your sweet thoughts.
    ~ Nikki

    1. That's right!
      Sean is my first priority, after the Lord and because of it, I believe we will stay strong.

      That's not to say that a rocky patch hasn't/won't occur, but we will withstand and still feel joy and love.

      I once heard someone say...."You want to have a good marriage? Wake up each morning and say to yourself...."'What can I do today to make their day better""?
      When I think like that, EVERYone prevails.

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    1. You know.....after I wrote this, I thought, "This sounds like something JJ and I would talk about....."


  3. Thanks for your comments, Rachel, from someone who has been happily married and honeymooning for almost 32 years (June 14th). Being married is a true gift of God, and I pray more people will come to realize it, and that marriage is an extension and expression of His love, mercy, and grace! Sometimes, just the comfort of being quiet together is, for us, a special moment in time. God bless you!

    1. Thank you for visiting, Elizabeth! I'm so glad you did!

      And congratulations on the 32 years of marriage. You really don't hear that number often. You should be so proud that you have remained firm to your husband.....Praise the Lord!

  4. love this post...hey i met my hubby at age 14 too...but didn't marry until we were 28. a long story in which God gets the glory.

  5. I'm single so I cannot relate to things regarding marriage.
    But I had to let you know that I was so happy to see you reference that letter written by Reagan. LOVED him! :)