and so it begins. year 1.



More than anything I hope to succeed at, my first year homeschooling, I hope to be successful in this:

I want to approach schooling my child, as a child would.

In many areas, but especially in my approach to others and their choices.

Sadly, I have already noticed what a lightning rod the choice to homeschool can be.  People won't ask about it, will roll their eyes or be passive aggressive about how it's a great choice, but certainly not one for them.  It's clear they are already on the defensive.  And perhaps it's because people have made them feel they had to be.  I have felt that way, in the past.  Unless you did ___________ someone would give you the smile that clearly meant, "That's nice for you, but definitely not for us, so let's just not address it".  I'm sure there have been times that I have made someone feel that way, much to my chagrin.  It makes people feel horrible.  Small.  Marginalized.

My daughter has many friends that are homeschooled and many that aren't.  We know people who send their children to private school and public.  Charter, Montessori and unschooling. She knows all of these kids and approaches each interaction the exact same.

Someone: "I bet you are starting school soon!"
Kensington: "Yes, I go to school in my house, downstairs. My mom is teaching me. What do you do?"
Someone: "I go ___________".
Kensington: "Cool.  Want to play?"

Each time I see Kensington embrace someone else, no matter what, it reminds me that I too, need to embrace. Just like I yearn for the embrace of others, in what we have chosen to do.  This could be a lesson in so many areas of our lives, but I'm finding that I need to focus on the oppurtunity to exercise a childlike spirit of acceptance, kindness and selflessness, in regards to schooling. I have a choice to recognize that if God leads someone to do something, even if it isn't what our family chooses, I need to shut up and mind my own darn business.  Put it out of my mind. Pray for their lives like I hope they pray for ours....because the Lord directs us all differently.

I have found that schooling is rarely polarizing amongst children-my daughter will play with anyone at anytime, regardless of what they look like, are wearing or where they learn.
The choice to school is polarizing amongst adults and it makes me sad, has often hurt my feelings and causes me to wish we had the simple and pure love, of a child.

My sincere hope is that Kensington learns this year.  Sure, I want her to gain a passion to learn about letters, numbers and different people, all around the world.

But mostly, I want her to continue to learn the love of the Father.
The love of the Father that would not be unkind or condescending to anyone, no matter where they sent their child to learn.

I hope I am a prepared enough teacher and example, but I fear I fall short.
So, here begins our first school year together.

Send up a prayer for us.
 


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  1. Girl, I am so praying for you. Excited for you guys!!!

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    1. Thank you, Thank you! I really appreciate it!

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  2. I praying for you just after I type this. I hope your experience is a blessing. I have my kids in Christian school and get all kinds of crazy looks about why how and what but really, it's no one's business. I think it's sad when Christians do anything other than seek to understand each other and LOVE because He first loved us. Honestly, I am I'm sure I have been guilty of this and a lot of it stems from my own doubts about myself as a mom...Anyway, that's a different story. I know you are going to do wonderfully. I am doing some home preschool with my 4 year old and I love it. I love when he asks me questions about what we're reading and seeing his face light up when he writes his name. Mostly I love learning with him and that experience is priceless!

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  3. This is the day that the Lord has made! Rejoice...and don't worry about the comparisons. You were born to be her mother...and her teacher!

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    1. I read this comment in the car and started singing "This is the Day" to the kids.
      LOVE.

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  4. praying for you in this first year! I'm sure it will be an adventure and K's love for learning will grow by leaps and bounds.
    We home-schooled Cam for about a year and a half prior to kinder and she flourished! My mother-in-law did an excellent job in creating a fun learning environment and encouraged her to seek out knowledge and ask questions.
    Everyone is going to raise their kids how they see fit and how a child learns or where they go to school is not anything that should ever be judged!
    have a great year!

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    1. Thank you, Amber. I'm with you...we really can't peer in to anyone's heart and mind and see WHY they make the choices they do and yet we judge them as if we can. It's sad, but I'm hellbent on stopping!

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  5. praying for y'all often! it's gonna be wonderful!

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    1. Thank you, my dear Hannah! It was GREAT! Praying for many more days like that!

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  6. I think it's going to be wonderful! You are already so thoughtful, compassionate and interesting..imagine what you can teach your little one!

    I always find it sad and disheartening how weird people get about their kids. I know it's hard, but let it roll off of your back. I have a neighbor who continually used to tell me "You're so odd and just CHILL...and you and Brad have really weird schedules!" as if I were doing something wrong or offensive somehow! He's a RN, I'm an artist who works at home.

    Not weird, just different.

    I think you are going to have a blast!

    Rock it, Sister!


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    1. I too have had interesting remarks or an all together lack of response/concern for our choice, which makes me sad but also sends me looking upward! His approval is all we need!
      Thanks, Tina!

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  7. Oh, friend! One day and one year at a time! With that, I take a deep breath and start my day. We all have such crazy experiences that mold and shape us to have the opinions that we have about which kind of schooling is best. I do think it's important for everyone to have people supporting them in those decisions. I am soooooo thankful for my homeschooling mom friends because they fill me up to be able to encourage the single moms who have no choice but to send their kids to public school. Likewise, moms with kids in public, private, or charter need people around them who are making the same choices. Together, each with our support teams, we should be able to encourage each other in our different choices. I learned this the hard way when my daughter was in private school for K. NO SUPPORT SYSTEM! A lot happened in a year with a change of church and a switch to homeschooling and BAM! SUPPORT! God knew I needed these women to encourage me so that I could turn around and give the best hug ever to my other friend who doesn't homeschool. She needed that love, but I'm not sure I could have offered it if my life wasn't being filled too. Community is so incredibly important and I hope you find that, sweet friend!

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    1. That is an interesting point and so important. We all need to encourage in order to enable others to encourage. It's a cycle and a job we should gladly take on....to share in each others lives and come along side.
      THANK YOU!

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